New year, new expectations
It’s almost the end of February, and I’ve still haven’t tried to pull myself together and try to keep all my new year promises . But this shall change! I think.
When I think about how me and Julie started 2015, she was sick and I was a bit tipsy, the perfect combination 🙂 I need to think that this year won’t get passed trough without some goals. Any kind of goals. Like maybe write more, stay focused on all social media, be responsible or even bake something for a change.
I believe we just have to act more than just talk and get over the childish phase of complaining about everything in the universe, that it is working AGAINST, and not for us.
New resolution , with love
Keeping that in mind, I have 2 goals this year , that are going to be difficult but I do not intend to fail.
2. Write some more, because writing for me is both mindfulness and meditation, the hard way. So I need that process to feel easy and ongoing.
And from Julie with love, here is a little and very well thought out list of the 7 things that are absolutely necessary to be done this year (with some little comments from myself)
1.Turn the apartment in a clutter-free zone – because life in a disorganized mess is just not so pink… I say
2. Spend more money on experiences than on material things- and I can add on coffee and wine with me
3. Smile and then smile some more- surely, she forgot to say she even wants to laugh
4. Be grateful – Ohh, so sweet! Wait! Did I tell u how grateful I am that I know u?:)
5. Write a gratitude letter to someone of your choosing. Keep a gratitude journal. I started one and it is very pleasant to write down all the things that are making my life joyful . Do not forget to change your habits and to say thank you more often.
6. Go to some more Theatre shows, Concerts, at the Ballet and other cultural places that are simply nourishing the soul. – Of course I may add clubs and other culturalizing and smoky places with loud music.
7. Be Mindful – I must add this is going to be a big step for the both of us, but we will get there.
8. Travel more, visit nice places, learn about the culture and the area .
Now,after writing down everything on the list, both Julie and I have to realize the importance of the tasks . They are not easy. Nor hard. Just some steps . This is the vision I have. Take it one step at a time and focus on you.
Here are some advices on how to make your New Year’s resolution stick on you
Give yourself some specific goals, as easy to remember and to be done.
After writing them down just take some time, look at them for a couple of days and think, really think about what you can accomplish. After that, just change some of the tasks if they seem too hard for now, there is no harm in that.
Because your own mind is the enemy here and you need to reboot it, take it slowly.
I don’t want to forget the description. If you love writing, be explicit about everything! Any task you make should have some steps. The longer the process the better it is for you. For every little step you make you’ll feel the reward of changing your thoughts and habits.
Describe everything, focus on yourself and get things done daily.
It’s all bout you and not the task, you have to change a habit and that will always take time. For example, I am always wondering about why doing that if the result will never be so effective as I wanted it to be. Do you realize the negative effect that I am taking upon myself? It’s very easy to keep this self preservation instinct going and not act for a change. Sometimes is better to stop overthinking it, as I’ve recently learned from a brilliant mind. Instead, get your intuition to work and make what you have to do in that moment.
I’ve tried once to focus on my task and not the goal, and it was nice because the harder thing became the simple one. But this took practice. And determination. Like when I am writing right now, I am starting my resolution all over again. (It’s been 2 hrs and didn’t finish the post. Not quitting! )
And it seems easier to write (as they say ) by staying concentrated on a the words and not always struggling to keep in mind that I have to finish it. Going on with the resolution tasks…
What about your attitude?
Often I find myself wanting so much more than I can carry! I know it’s amazing to stay positive and be really cheerful and sooo excited you are going to accomplish all these great tasks, but please stop! Do not get overwhelmed by positive attitude , or things like coffee , anxiety and maybe some other oxytocin provoked thoughts.
Keep the mind fresh, calm, serene
I always remember to shut my eyes and breathe slowly after writing whatever I want new from life. And if I do not accomplish it now , well, I see it like a great start (you see how all the positive thoughts are stepping up?) , it’s not a problem, I’ll do it next time because it will be again on the resolution list.
Please! Expect to fail somehow
It’s not really a great thought when you think about it, but it is true.
When I was trying to meditate for the first time I was always thinking how could this form of spiritual silence (as I was seeing it then),could help me. After giving it a try for a couple of times every day, I saw its benefits, both inside and outside. Of course, then life happened and forgot about it, but I do know how to reactivate that mindful feeling.
Well, this being said , remember it’s not easy with anything in life and sometimes motivation is not the cause of the problem , it’s the little voice in your head that is saying : stop! its worthless. It is never worthless, these steps are definitely making you a great favor by keeping you challenged for the next big step you have ahead.
And remember that it is ok to fail as long as you learn from that experience and than try again and again…until you’ll get it right. Samuel Beckett said it so beautifully: “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”